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I'm stuck in a self-improvement loop and can't just enjoy life

How did I fall into this trap? Should I give up on my self improvement habits?

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From my childhood, I have been ingrained a mindset of competitiveness. I was focused on my academics. I would try to get into the best universities. I wanted to get the best appraisals at work. I have achieved most of these.

Aphorisms such as 'If you are not growing then you are not living', etc. Then I read the book on 'Growth Mindset' which resonated with my spirit of competitiveness. There is an overload of influencers on social media preaching the ultra perfect lifestyle. All these underscore my life's purpose to get better every minute.

I have a packed weekend routine. I learn music. I practice two foreign languages. I brush up my technical knowledge. I have self improvement, career related and personal finance books which I am constantly racing to finish. I am fanatical about the cleanliness of my room. I workout till I am sore. I have a to-do list which seems to be ever growing. I feel withdrawal symptoms when I miss one of them.

I have saved up enough but I cannot stop thinking about growing my career and increasing my net worth. In a nutshell, I am swamped perpetually.

What did I miss?
I have no time to enjoy my weekends. I cannot sit through a movie without thinking about doing anything productive. I cannot have a leisurely conversation with my family. I am constantly thinking about the things I can do to better myself.

It has just dawned upon me recently that I have been so consumed by self improvement that I have not been enjoying the finer things of life, the proverbial not smelling the roses. When my work colleagues speak about watching a Netflix series or trying out the latest bar, I have nothing to contribute. Gradually I realized that I am not doing anything fun.

What is the end goal of relentless improvement?
 Self improvement is good but where do you draw the line between healthy growth and obsessive growth? 
Men are judged by their achievements, job positions, wealth, etc. Should I continue to align to what others judge about me? Should I not choose to lead my life on my own terms? What is the solution? I haven't found the perfect antidote to this borderline unhealthy obsession. But one of the things that I am doing is to forcefully embed some fun activities in my routine - like watching a movie or dancing. I have to find other ways to lead a balanced life. This too will take continual effort. 

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